One of my more productive habits is reading youtube comments, they really act as a kaleidoscopic view into the real great parts of humanity, the dregs and the bottom feeders that subsist attached to actual content.
One aspect of these people is this constant need for oneupmanship, actually if I’m honest I don’t really see that much of it in Youtube but I thought I’d use that as a launch pad because everyone knows what a shitshow the comment section is.
Oneupmanship as defined by the Google is “the technique or practice of gaining an advantage or feeling of superiority over another person.”and it’s something I find detestable.
The way our society works is that someone’s value is based off of what other people think of them, how many instagram likes they get or how many chicks they’ve banged, using this metric, people need to get on up on everyone else in order to seem better and cooler. It’s a form of insecurity I suppose this incessant need to be seen to be better than everyone else.
Seen being a key word. There is a difference between seeing as being better than someone else and being better than someone else. To be truly confident and to possess a feeling of mastery is internal and not affected by outside stimuli, this is a core confidence. What people who do oneupmanship look for is a situational confidence which disappears in time and is transitory.
What one should try and cultivate is a core confidence and belief in oneself, not a fragile image that shatters under inspection so yeah, try and love yourself.